If you have a son who refuses to admit he has a problem, refuses to go to a rehab program, and won’t listen to you anymore-and you don’t know what else to do-then this article was written for you.Whether it’s a son or any loved one, the steps to take are the same. They are simple steps and will work the greater majority of the time if properly executed.
This article will provide you with some details that most likely were never revealed to you. These are the steps of intervention.
There are lots of misconceptions about Drug Intervention and lots of bad advice about it. So read this article carefully as the information that it contains is taken from an interview done with David Holtz.
David is an experienced interventionist who has brought about 500 addicted individuals to rehab.
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You can also listen for free to part 1 of the recorded interview: “Drug and Alcohol Rehab Intervention Revealed” and sign up for the full interview free of charge.
A Well Done Intervention
Creates The “Rock Bottom”
Instead of waiting for them to reach their “rock bottom”, which could be a lengthy jail time, an overdose or death, a well done intervention puts the bottom there for the addict so they accept help now, before they get even worse.
A properly done intervention is your secret weapon that will crack some of the toughest cases, if you pay attention to the details we’ll reveal in this article. To learn ALL the details, please sign up for free for the full audio replay of the interview: Drug and Alcohol Rehab Intervention Revealed.
Listing the Steps
Step one is to stop rescuing them. That has to stop because if you keep doing the rescuing, the addict will know that every time he gets in trouble, you’ll be there to bail him or her out.
Drug users and alcoholics will typically use for as long as they can get away with it, and finally accept help when their lifestyle starts to fall apart. Unfortunately, our natural compassion is one of the biggest reasons they continue to use.
Our compassion motivates us to bail them out of jail, to make excuses to their boss after they failed to show up for work and pay their rent when they can’t pay it on their own. We continue to excuse their behavior and help them out of their emergencies.
In other words, when their life is about to fall apart and they’re about ready to accept the right kind of help, we make it easy for them to continue their addiction.
Stop enabling them. This step is very much connected to step one. You must stop paying their rent, giving them money or even buying them food when they are living on their own-when you buy food for them, it’s because they’ve used their food money for drugs.
But step 2 goes a step further. You must also look for the other “enablers” in the family and cut them off. Look for the grandmother, the uncle and the cousin who’s always ready to bail them out. Make it clear to them that they’re in fact loving the addict to DEATH!
Now that you’ve stopped enabling the addict, and his or her life is about to fall apart, you’re ready for step 3 of the intervention.
Time your intervention. This is not always possible as sometimes you need to do the intervention when you can. Try to do the intervention immediately after major problems resulting directly from drug use.
Such problems could be an accident, his wife has left him or that he can’t pay his rent two months in a row.
It’s also best to do the intervention in the morning when they are first awake and before they start using heavily again. You want them as clear headed as possible.
If the person is blind drunk, there is no point in doing the intervention as he or she’ll forget whatever you’ll say during the intervention. If necessary, get them to sleep, wait till they wake up and then do the intervention before they start drinking or use drugs, so they can hear you.
So time your intervention before the addict begins to drink heavily or use drugs; preferably after a major problem.
On the recorded interview, David, the interventionist, mentions this step as step “6”. But as an educator, I find it’s less confusing if I mention it as step 4.
This step is about finding strength in numbers. Get the help of family members, relatives and friends. Confront the abuser as a group, however you want to choose one person to be the initial spokesperson, then take turns.
The important detail in this step is to have only one person talk at a time and then take turns.
It would be much more effective for the others to simply be there nodding their heads, instead of everyone talking at once and “ganging up” on him.
This makes it so much more real to the abuser. He or she then sees that it’s not only one family member. It’s the mother, it’s the father, it’s the brother and sister, it’s the boss, it’s the Uncle, etc.
Now that you’ve set a good time to do the intervention and have everyone on board, it’s time to do the intervention.
Step 5 to 7 deals with how you speak to the abuser and what you should do while carrying out the intervention.
An important note about step 5 and 6 is the tone of voice you should use. Never raise your voice at the abuser or get angry during the intervention. The tone of voice should be calm and caring regardless of what the addict says.
This step is about what each person present in the intervention should say to the abuser .
The rules in this step are to be specific, calm and caring.
Taking turns each person should follow the process outlined below:
- First state how using drugs or alcohol is affecting the abuser’s life. Give specific examples of bad consequences that resulted from their drug or alcohol abuse.
Example1: I left my kids with you and you didn’t watch them because you were using drugs in the bathroom.
Example2: You’ve gone to jail, you’re loosing your kids, You’ve lost so much weight, you’re showing late for work, you’ve become untrustworthy and unpredictable, etc.Give specific examples so it’s real to them.
- Then transition to how it’s affecting your life.
Example: I’m worry about you all the time. I can’t sleep at night, I never know when you’ll come back home.
Once again, give specific examples.
- State the consequences. Now it’s time to state how their relationship with you is going to change if they don’t accept help TODAY.
It’s very important that you state consequences that you’re willing to back up. If you say you’re going to kick them out of the house or take the kids away, be prepared to carry through with those consequences.
If you don’t follow through with those consequences then the intervention will fail.The addict sometimes will want to dig their heels in and test the consequences. The addict doesn’t always go immediately to rehab that day.
If the family follows the steps of the intervention and keeps the consequences in, usually within a few days, the addict will accept the help and go to treatment.
Sometimes it’s taken David a few weeks and there have been one or two cases where it took him a couple of months to get someone to rehab. But the only reason the addict decided to change is because the family kept the consequences in.
- Each person ends with the question: “Will you go to treatment TODAY?”
If he says yes, then you end the intervention, pack his bags and take him to the rehab that you chose before starting the intervention.
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If he says no, then to move to the next person. That person should follow the same process from point 1 to 4.You go on from one family member to the next until he says yes to the question: “Will you go to treatment today?”
Listen for some kind of reach from the addict. Example of reaches are such questions coming from the addict as: What program did you chose for me? Where will I go? Etc. So you need to have a program already picked out and a bed ready for him.
You don’t want him to start looking for a program and waste time. You want to take him directly from the intervention to the center.
The family has to have all the answers ready.
For example, if he says, I can’t leave because I have to find someone to take care of my dog, the family replies: “No, we’ll take care of your dog, or Bob decided to take care of your dog.”
If he says I can’t go now because I have a business deal to take care of. The family replies: “No, we’ve already spoken with your boss and he’s got it covered”.
You take away all the excuses he gives you for why he says he can’t go to treatment today.
The audio interview goes into more details and I recommend you take some time to listen to it: Drug & Alcohol Rehab Intervention Revealed.
Another important point is that any yes is a yes. Some people think the addict has to decide to go for himself. That’s not true. If the addict says he’ll do it for you, then that’s a yes—you pack his bags and send him to rehab.
Addicts are usually not willing to go for themselves otherwise you wouldn’t need to do an intervention. Every additional day you wait to take them to treatment is a day where some major problem could occur. So any yes, is a yes.
A properly done intervention successfully sets a person up for succeeding in a rehab program. Get them to an effective program.
Why This Technique Works
Drug users often believe they are only hurting themselves and are willing to go on because of the pressure they constantly feel to use more drugs or alcohol.
Family members are often baffled when they try to reason with the addict and can’t seem to get through. What family members often don’t understand is that it’s not a game of reasoning—it’s a game of pressure.
That’s why you see them more “reasonable” when they are facing a possible jail sentence, a divorce, or losing their kids. They become more “reasonable” when the pressure from the environment is greater than the pressure they feel to use more drugs or alcohol.
That’s why an intervention is so powerful when done right. That’s why you need to stop enabling them. That’s why you need as many family members on board doing the intervention.
The game is to exert more pressure on the addict to stop using than the pressure he feels to continue his addiction.
A well done intervention will cause the addict to feel the necessity to come clean and decide to go to treatment. If the necessity isn’t there, then they’ll go on using. It’s that simple.
The family needs to heal from that addiction just as much as the addict. By doing the intervention properly, the family can then also start its journey toward recovery.
To learn more about intervention and how it is done, listen to the recorded interview with David Holts. He’s an experienced interventionist who has brought up to 500 addicts to rehab.
Click the following link to listen to the “Drug Rehab Intervention Revealed.”
PS: Click the following link to listen to the recorded interview: Drug and Alcohol Rehab Intervention Revealed.
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