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What Is The First Step You Need To Take To Get A Loved One Clean And Sober?

If you know of a loved one who is abusing drugs or alcohol and you want to help them get clean and sober, but you’re uncertain of what to do next, then this was made for you. Be prepared for some new and different information about addiction.

We are going to show you how to get an addict or alcoholic toward a moment of clarity so they cooperate in taking action to end their addiction.

You’ll get the most out of this if you treat it as a step by step plan and take the FIRST STEPS of getting a loved one clean and sober. We can’t teach you all about addiction in this video, but we’ll tell you what step 1, step 2, step 3 and step 4 are.

At the end, you’ll know what to do to fully resolve your loved ones drug and alcohol problems.

So let’s start with step 1, which is probably the most critical step of all.

Step 1

You may have observed that your loved one’s emotional state is unstable at best. They get mad easily, they are touchy and very sensitive.

Their 2 favorite saying are “you don’t understand” and “stuff just happens”.

So, it’s very important they feel you understand them. You have their best interest at heart, but you won’t go far with them if you don’t get what addiction is about.

If you were in their shoes, you’d want no less.

So you actually need to understand a drug / alcohol abuser and understand what they’re going through.

In other words, your first step is to understand some simple underlying factors about addiction. Here’s the good news: It’s not rocket science – it’s simple language without psycho babble. Anyone could understand the 7 Steps to overcoming addiction video – especially an addict.

If you do this, you’ll quickly become their confidant and you’ll have that much more influence on them.

And that’s why the first video that we show you in our free membership teaches you about the 7 Steps to overcoming addiction. You’ll save years of confusion and heartache by going to watch it now.

If you’re a member and haven’t watched this video yet, your first step is to go and watch the 7 Steps to overcoming addiction video now. Then, you’ll know enough about addiction to go on to step 2.

If you’re not a member yet, go to and subscribe for free. It’s the first video that you see after you subscribe.

Now that you’ve done that,

Step 2

What you are going to do on Step 2 depends on the situation. We are just going to give you 3 different situations. Find the situation which most applies to the scene.

Here are the 3 most common situations that family members face when dealing with someone abusing drugs or alcohol.

In situation #1, your loved one is openly hoping to be helped or assisted in getting clean. If they are open, then go to step 3 of this article, its coming in a minute, and we’ll tell you exactly what to do. Providing them with a complete and positive solution encourages even more cooperation from them. If Poor or no solutions are offered up, addicts are discouraged and may go back to using.

The other situations, 2 and 3, are simple because they use the same solution – easy right?

In situation #2, your loved one SEEMS to be willing to change their drug abusing behavior — usually when they’re facing a problem—and once that problem is resolved, their willingness to stop abusing drugs or alcohol withers away and may seem to disappear.

By a problem we mean, money, a place to stay, food, recent overdose, etc. It could also be guilt, and once you tell them it’s ok, and make them feel comfortable, they may think it’s ok to go on abusing.

In situation #3, they’re just unwilling to change their ways and are generally resistive, argumentative, rebellious and not open.

Both situation #2 and #3 will require an intervention. Interventions are very straight forward to do AFTER the family fully understands how Interventions are CORRECTLY done. A poorly done intervention can aggravate the situation. And that’s why we recorded an interview with a professional interventionist who’s done over 500 interventions.

That intervention interview tells you step-by-step exactly how to do a family style intervention. The interview is available to you in the intervention section of the membership. Go there now if you’re loved one is unwilling to solve their drug or alcohol problem.

Ok, now let’s assume that your loved one is openly willing to talk about their problems and do something about it. This is the optimum situation.

The drug / alcohol abuser may be wasting their lives away up until the time they are speaking to you, they may be in some serious trouble. The truly important fact is that they are hoping to change their lives NOW. They want to change directions and get clean and sober.

Now, you’re ready for.

Step 3

The purpose of step 3 is to help them have a moment of clarity.

If they aren’t high or drunk, you’ll greatly increase your odds of success – then just follow step 3 carefully.

First, Provide a safe / distraction free place for them to talk with you. Ensure they aren’t over distracted, if they are hungry, get a bite to eat or have food available. But don’t EVER give an addict money, as they’ll use it for dope.

Next ASK:

What do you want to be different in your life?

They may say,: I’m sick of my self, I want to change, I want my family back, I just want off drugs, I want to stop being afraid, I don’t want to run anymore, I want to start living a normal life, I want my debts handled – but don’t pay off their debts just yet—

It’s very important that you ACCEPT or acknowledge their answer when they’re finished, don’t argue or challenge their answers. Your attitude should be one of loving concern.

And that’s key, so let me repeat it again. Your attitude should be one of loving concern. Not contentious, annoyed, or angry.

Once you’ve acknowledged their first answer,


What’s getting in the way of making those changes?

Their answers may be long or short. And this subject may cause them a great deal of discomfort, emotion and stress.

They may start to cry, plead for forgiveness, become fidgety, say I don’t know, etc.

But Finding out what’s getting in the way of making those changes in their life, begins to open the door to resolving their drug or alcohol abuse problem.

Now, They may answer: it’s because my dealer ripped me off, you don’t support me anymore, my girlfriend would leave me.

No matter what answers they give, as long as they truly answer that question according to what is real to them, accept and acknowledge that answer.

Next, ASK

How does drug or alcohol abuse fit into the situation?

You may have to repeat that question again –

What you’re doing is clearly and simply moving them toward moments of greater clarity for themselves, of how they got themselves in this mess they are in. This is for their benefit, but will provide some relief for you to.

The cause of their mess may be obvious to YOU, But not yet to them.

You want them to really see for themselves, what’s ruining their lives.

You may believe you already know what this problem or situation is: that’s not the point of these questions. The point of asking the drug / alcohol abuser how drug and alcohol abuse fits into that situation? is so they see some of the factors contributing to their situation for themselves.

Accept and acknowledge their answer.

Now onto

Step 4

On Step 4, Show your loved one the first video in the membership, called “7 steps to overcoming Addiction”

Drug and alcohol abusers are very savvy about their problems but uninformed about the underlying cause of addiction. They need to be educated before they can make an informed decision to resolve their addiction. The 7 Steps to overcoming addiction video at makes sense to addicts, take them there, you’ll be glad you did.

And these are the first 4 steps to helping a loved one get clean.

© Tibor A. Palatinus of Narconon Vancouver Society , all rights reserved. Narconon and its logo is owned by the Association for Better living and education and used with its permission. This video was produced in association with Bullseye Promotions.

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